Monday, September 22, 2008

The way to treat a Mother who is grieving

Please Be Gentle
By Jill B. Englar

Please be gentle with me for I am grieving.
The sea I swim in is a lonely one
and the shore seems miles away.
Waves of despair numb my soul
as I struggle through each day.
My heart is heavy with sorrow.
I want to shout and screamand repeatedly ask 'why?'
At times, my grief overwhelms me
and I weep bitterly,so great is my loss.
Please don’t turn away
or tell me to move on with my life.
I must embrace my pain
before I can begin to heal.
Companion me through tears
and sit with me in loving silence.
Honor where I am in my journey,
not where you think I should be.
Listen patiently to my story,
I may need to tell it over and over again.
It’s how I begin to grasp the enormity of my loss.
Nurture me through the weeks and months ahead.
Forgive me when I seem distant and inconsolable.
A small flame still burns within my heart,
and shared memories may trigger
both laughter and tears.
I need your support and understanding.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I must find my own path.
Please, will you walk beside me?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Kristi, I know that you're still greiving as are daddy and I. We want you to know how much we love ya'll and our sweet Kinsey and always will. Just to know that family and friends cry with you I know that it makes you feel a little better. God will ease your pain because he is everything He has helped me with losing my mom. You will think of Kinsey every day and miss her,but time will help heal. I wish I could be there for you, but I want you to know that it's alright to cry and think of what if. But with God's help and his love for us he will be there for ya'll. I pray everyday that he gives ya'll a beautiful, healthy baby one day.Love to you and Taylor and my sweet Kinsey Grace. With all my love and prays, Mama

Renee said...

I have been thinking of you and praying for a healing heart. If you cry every day it is more than okay. Don't let anyone make you feel unsure of how you should grieve. I went to the cemetary EVERY day until Landry was born...it took 21 months of daily trips to get me through it and believe me...people thought I had lost it! If I was out of town, people went for me. I was a little emphatic about it but it was MY way. It made me get up and leave the house. It made me feel better and that is all that mattered. I love talking about my sweet angel and I always tell people about her if they ask how many children I have. It is the only way we can love our children. We have to preserve the memories we have and do it with a loving heart. Call me whenever you want to...I am here.

Anonymous said...

Kristi,
Thank you so much for sharing your Kinsey with me thru this blogspot. You know I'm partial to redheads...We keep an eye on her for you and as I pass I say a little prayer for you and Taylor. I like what your friend told you about "just breathe"....that is so true... time will heal the pain if you let it...someone once told me to let go and let love...and it's true...the tears will wash the pain and sorrow away and restore the warmth of memories of her kicks and nudges...all those things that you and Taylor enjoyed those precious 9 months...so embrace your grief because that's what you need in order to heal ....you are in my thoughts and prayers....Janis

Anonymous said...

Kristi,
Roger and I send our love to you and Taylor...you are in our prayers...Hobo is keeping watch on Kinsey Grace...
Love,
Kathi

Sara W. said...

I'm still praying for you guys everyday. I know it doesn't get easier but keep your head up. Rely on each other for support. The rest of us will always be here when you need us.
Love,
Sara

Paige said...

Kristi,

I want you to know that I think you are so strong to write what you are feeling. I honestly don't know what I would do in your position. I pray for you and Taylor to have some type of peace from God through all this. There are days when I read your blog and I just want to be there to give you a big hug and cry with you. I can't help but shead a tear everytime I read your blogs and listen to the beautiful music. I just wish there was somthing I could do or say to make the hurt go away. Just know that ya'll are in my prayers and I do think about you everyday.... I love you cousin!